Women flee Ukraine, but hope for peace so they can return to their homes

23-year-old Anna, from Mariupol, left her hometown alone on the first day of the war. For the past three weeks, the young woman has been living in a temporary placement center 40 km north of Kyiv, in Vatici, Orhei. “I try to do sports every day. I go jogging. It helps me distract myself from bad thoughts,” she says.

In Ukraine, Anna worked as an English teacher. Now, in order not to lose her only source of income while in Moldova, she teaches lessons online. “To be honest, I don’t even know if my colleagues and students are alive or not. There is no connection with the city. I can only hope,” she adds. Anna admits that in Moldova she has everything she needs: a roof over her head, delicious food, and access to medical care and Internet. The only thing missing is her relatives and friends who remained in Ukraine.

Marina, from Odessa, is a nail artist who lives in the same temporary placement center as Anna. In the center, she is a local celebrity who is sought after by other refugees for manicures. For Marina, the work allows her to momentarily forget about the war. “Manicure is now a kind of therapy. I always talk to the women and girls I work with; sometimes I give them advice. Now, in this difficult time, communication helps us all,” she shares.

When the war started, Marina was hesitant about leaving—she was hoping that everything would work out. But psychologically, things became difficult. “The sounds of the sirens depressed me so much that I couldn’t find a place for myself. In order not to hear them, I was turning on the music loud,” she recounts. She left Odessa alone in a hurry, and after several days at the center in Moldova, she began missing her work. She showed the other women her portfolio of nail art and when she realized she would be able to lighten the mood by painting their nails, she returned to Odessa with a friend who had a car to pick up her work supplies. Soon, she began painting women’s nails, thus creating a small sense of normalcy for all.

At the same time, Marina worries about her parents who stayed in Odessa, especially her father who is seriously ill. “We are ok here, but home is better,” Marina says. This sentiment is echoed by the other women staying in the Vatici center, who comprise 90 per cent of the 70 refugees there, and none of whom intend to stay long in Moldova—they hope for peace so that they can return home. In Straseni district, in central Moldova, UN Women visited another temporary placement center for refugees, which was formerly a recreation center for children and youth. It is now hosting nearly 60 people, most of whom are women and children.

Before the war, Snejana, 41, enjoyed a happy and peaceful life by the sea. She was a self-employed hair colorist in Odessa and couldn’t imagine that in one day her life would dramatically change. “Because of the bombing, my children couldn’t sleep and we were all exhausted,” she recounts. “I understood there was no other option for our safety than fleeing Ukraine.”

Until they reached the border, Snejana drove with open windows to make sure it was visible that there were children in the vehicle. ”I could only breath easily once we got to the other side of the border. I had nowhere to go, but thanks to the kind and loving people of Moldova, my children and I have everything we need now,” she says.

UN Women and the International Organization for Migration conducted a displacement survey and interviewed around 3,000 refugees at entry and exit border crossings, transit locations, reception centers and private accommodations. According to the survey, women comprise the majority of refugees fleeing Ukraine and account for 81 per cent of all refugees interviewed. The average age of women is 40 years, and 60 per cent of women are aged 30-49 years. Women are shouldering an immense child-care responsibility compounded by family separation and limited financial resources. Some 83 per cent of women were travelling with at least one child below the age of 18, with the majority having one child (44 per cent) or two (34 per cent).

”Integrating gender equality measures as well as age and diversity dimensions into cross-sectoral refugee response efforts is critical to ensuring that women, girls, boys, and men—particularly those at most heightened risk and those who are marginalized—have equitable access to and can benefit from relief, services, and information,” explains Dominika Stojanoska, UN Women Country Representative in Moldova.